As Matchmakers, we know that many a relationship is lost not because of a poor match, but because of misunderstandings which occur due to the different ways in which men and women communicate. Complaints such as ‘he didn’t understand me’ and ‘she was impossible to deal with’are often cited as reasons for relationships ending, yet are often entirely avoidable. People focus on the content of conversation without really understanding the differences in communication – which can lead to misinterpretation.
The tragedy is, if people don’t understand communicative styles and their own role in the breakdown of communication, they take these problems into the next relationship and create exactly the same circumstances. This is why people frequently split up with numerous partners for essentially the same reasons. Understanding differences in how people communicate will enhance your dating success by helping you avoid pit-falls and instead foster closeness and understanding.
In this series of three blogs, we will look at the differences between how men and women communicate with tips on managing these differences. Although we will explore generalities in men and women’s communication styles, these differences are not set in stone and may apply equally the other way round and within same-sex relationships. The important point is to recognise and adapt our responses so that we truly create a meaningful connection. This helps us to avoid George Bernard Shaw’s caution that, “the single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place”.