So today I’m going to talk about childhood trauma or adverse events in childhood and some ideas about where to start to heal from the experience.
But today, as always, we need to be sensitive to past trauma. It’s not helpful to deny that it existed in your life. Not is it helpful to think about it all the time.
Therefore both you and I need to be sensitive to it today.
Before I start I want to let you know that some of you, particularly if you have had some trauma in your childhood, may be triggered by what you are reading and find yourself upset.
Just remember you have the choice to read this or not. You can stop reading at any point.
The key with any of this work we talk about is to be able to feel better in a way that works best for you. Being overly stimulated or stressed can actually be unhelpful. It’s all about knowing how much you can tolerate and if tolerating it is helpful.
And colleague of mine Dr. Sally Winston taught me the phrase “white knuckling it” She meant that when we look down at our hands and we are squeezing so tightly that our knuckles are white then we are just surviving. Just getting through the experience. We might be barely tolerating it. In those conditions we are likely not learning anything new. Or learning how to manage. We are just suffering through it.
So today, don’t white knuckle this post.
I also want you to remember that we are talking about childhood experiences today and that you are an adult today. If you recall anything from your past that upsets you, just remember it was in your past and that today you are an adult, with that experience, of course, that you now bring to your life today including new strengths, experiences, knowledge and skills to allow you to be stronger and more resilient than when you were a little kid.
If you feel uncomfortable or distressed, just take a moment to ground yourself in where you are. Pay attention to your place. For example, if you are sitting actually feel yourself in the chair. Feel your feet on the floor, feel your arms touch the chair or whatever they are on. Ground yourself.
Then take a moment to pay attention to your breath. Don’t necessarily try to make it big or small, deep or shallow. Just notice it. You may notice it i….in your belly, your nose, your chest. It doesn’t matter where. When your mind should wander off to something else, just keep your attention on your breath. Your attention will naturally wander. The power is in the bringing your mind back
If you are still upset then please contact your licensed healthcare provider for help. If your reaction causes extreme distress, you may need to call your local crisis call centre. Or, if you are experiencing reactions that you cannot manage you many need to go to your local hospital or call 911 to address an emergency situation.
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